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Ephesians 5:21
"Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another."
One of the students in our Renewing Your Mind class has been struggling with her daughter抯 behavior for several years. She believed that, as the mother, it was her job to control her teenage daughter抯 behavior at all times. Although mother (Marybeth) and daughter (Tiffany) each loved the other, they both had different ideas about what was permissible behavior for a teenager.
Tiffany wanted to wear her hair in a way that her mother found offensive. Marybeth saw the hairstyle as ugly and unbecoming on her beautiful daughter. Instead of her hair making her more attractive, her hair seemed to shout the message that Tiffany did not care how she looked.
For her part, Tiffany thought her mother抯 idea of pretty hair was old-fashioned. She knew that if she were to wear it the way her mother wanted, her friends would make fun of her and wonder why she wanted to look so strange.
What was Marybeth supposed to do? The Bible said that children are supposed to obey their parents and her daughter was defying her about the way she cared for herself. She was not asking that much. She only wanted what was good for her daughter. She fondly remembered how enjoyable their relationship was at an earlier time. Marybeth used to have so much fun dressing Tiffany in cute outfits and fixing her hair. Tiffany never complained and used to stand in the mirror and smile at how cute her hair was.
When she came to the Renewing Your Mind class, Marybeth learned that she was only responsible for events within her own property line, not events outside of it. In truth, Tiffany was now old enough to be outside of Marybeth抯 property line. This began to sound familiar.
Even though she is embarrassed to think about all the mistakes she had made as a teenager, Marybeth realized that is how she learned about the world. She eventually grew up to be a responsible adult and faithful Christian; so why wouldn抰 her daughter be able to do the same thing? She also remembered what it was like when she was a teenager and her mother tried to control her life.
Marybeth realized she was creating her own upsets with her adolescent daughter by trying to control behavior that was none of her business. By writing about her upsets and using the tools from the class, she was able to let go of a situation over which she had no control. The results brought her relief and a new sense of peace with her daughter.
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